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[Photo: My first date by Garrette]

I am working on a more involved post for tomorrow but in the meantime, I thought I would throw out a question a co-worker brought up at lunch last week -- thanks, David!

If you had to make an instant decision on whether or not to enter into a serious relationship with someone you just met based on their answer to a single question, what would that question be? What would be your own answer to the question?

The first question that comes to my mind is, "Do you like pets, specifically dogs?" My answer to the question is, most definitely...the more the merrier! I love the below quote as it perfectly describes my sentiments towards non-dog lovers!

"I once decided not to date a guy because he wasn't excited to meet my dog. I mean, this was like not wanting to meet my mother." -- Bonnie Schacter, Founder of the Single Pet Owner's Society Singles Group

"Do you smoke?"
my answer: never, ever.

I've lost significant people in my life to the side effects of smoking.. family members, and a very dear friend of mine recently. It's hands down the fastest thing that'll turn me off of someone I might otherwise be interested in. No question.

Do you want kids?
a yes would be an instant deal breaker.

I'd have to agree with you, Jen, on that one. I think I would have to revise my question to "Do you prefer pets or children?" :)

Interesting question. I've always figured that I wouldn't have to force myself to feel things about someone based on a single answer to a single question, and so far, I've been right. : )

So, I suppose I'd ask the question, "Are you going to force me to make a decision about our relationship with the answer to one question?" : )

My answer: Nuh uh.

Its been my experience that people grow together over time and the longer they have to grow together, the longer it takes for them to grow apart. To borrow from Master Lee(my Taekwondo instructor), in America, we use metal and glass cookwear, which heats and cools quickly, just like many observed relations in America, whereas, in Korea, they use stone cookwear, which heats and cools slowly. He's been with his wife for many years and is still giddy like a school boy many a time when he is with her because they took time to develop their bonds instead of letting themselves just live in the moment of that one question.

Thank you Master Lee.

"Raphael or Picasso?"

Answerers of "Picasso" need not apply. :)

Are you open to learning new experiences and sharing each others interests?
Absolutely 100% YES!!!

You come into a relationship knowing what you know. If you are compatible with the other person, then sharing and trying new things together makes a relationship grow stronger. At the same time you learn new things from the other person, take on their interests and past experiences, learn, grow, support, and strentgthen your relationship.

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